Wednesday, October 21, 2009

QUALITIES OF PATIVRATA

What are the standards of one being a Pativrata wife?
A Pativrata wife is one who -
- Accepts "husband" as he is, and serves him through words, deeds
And a thought i.e. follows Patni Dharma (wife's duties) rigorously.
- Has implicit faith in husband. A rare quality! E.g. Tulsi
- Does not seek any reciprocation from her husband
- Gives unconditionally, without expectation in return
- Simply by seeing Bhagwaan in her husband, can attain realization.
Nothing else is needed
- Is focused on her and her duty alone and becomes the shadow of her
husband.

Pativrata Dharma is not dependent upon husband's conduct
- Pativrata Dharma is not "servanthood" at all. It is a "bhava" 
- Pativrata Dharma is a special short cut given to women, guaranteed
method for liberation/God Realization
- It is VERY VERY easy in Kaliyuga to observe this Dharma. Almost 
all women can observe this dharma. Key is relinquishing "Ego"
- "Both the Pati (in vrata) with wife" is the complete seNse in
PATIVRATA. With Rama-Sita was a Pativrata.
- Per Vyas - Dharma is sadachar (virtuous, righteous, moral conduct
that should be followed), but it is practically impossible to stick
to in todays life.

2.How does she conduct herself?
- She acts according to her husband's desire, obediently and most 
naturally.
- Bhavas towards husband come comparitively effortless

3.How does her conduct impact her home?
- No ego clashes.
- benefits in personal, family, societal, all of mankind. following
Bhagwaan's ordinance, physical well-being, harmony, peace, spreading
fragrant happiness to all.
- Always Peace. Respect! Purity! Power! She is "Grihalaxmi" ! She
is "Annapurna" (Feeder) !! She is "Shakti".
- Obedient children

4.How does she get emancipated from this worldly ocean merely
because she is Pativrata?

- all karmas, gets dispelled though her husband may be bad
- it is a chance for liberation from rebirth that only woman have.
- complete surrender, where wife has no ego, no desire, no wishes of
her own at all.
- She gets Realisation. She gets emancipation. She gets rewarded by
Paramatma.
- principles of surrender leading to "egoless", "desireless"

and "mamataless" (Gita 2:71)

Do you think you are ready to be a pativrita ?
- Just accept firmly -Only God is mine, and I am God's. This whole
world is God's, so serve all as God's per Gita's without expecting
anything.
- Sri Krishna is foremost, and knowing that our relationship with
Him will not end, there is a deeper confidence that no one can take
away.
- It is unwillingness to observe "egolessness" or drop the ego that 
prevents one from following this dharma. 
- Surrender unto Paramatma and do your duty.
- Accept Bhagwaan as everything (all relations)
- Do not give up your devotion to God
- Know yourself! All answers lie within!
- Key is to being satisfied within one's own Self (where Supreme
Lord resides).

LETS ATLEAST FOLLOW THIS IN THIS FAST MOVING WORLD 

I FEEL I SHOULD BE LIKE THIS BECAUSE THIS WILL MAKE ME SATISFIED AND GIVE ME SOME PEACE OF MIND 

3 comments:

  1. I would like you to think again about what you have written. Where will following all the rules you have mentioned above leave you as an individual? And through doing all this are you bringing peace of mind to yourself or enslavement to yourself?

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  2. Poisedon, i think what she has wriiten is completely. if you still feel its related to enslavement maybe you havent understood the essence of patnidharma and pati vrata

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  3. Nice thoughts on the Pativratas, thanks for sharing. One cannot stop thinking about Draupadi while talking about Pativratas. She is considered to be 'Kula Devata' and/ or 'Grama Devatha' by many people.

    In fact, there are many shrines for Goddess Draupadi, spread in Andhra Pradesh, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka. One of the shrines, where She is a Grama-Devatha and Kula-Devatha to many, is located in one of the small villages of Tamil Nadu.

    The village is named KONDAL, Mayiladuthurai Taluk, Nagapattinam District, Nidur P.O, Tamil Nadu.

    Draupadi

    Draupadi Amman Thunai - May you all be BLESSED by HER grace!!

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