Wednesday, October 21, 2009

QUALITIES OF PATIVRATA

What are the standards of one being a Pativrata wife?
A Pativrata wife is one who -
- Accepts "husband" as he is, and serves him through words, deeds
And a thought i.e. follows Patni Dharma (wife's duties) rigorously.
- Has implicit faith in husband. A rare quality! E.g. Tulsi
- Does not seek any reciprocation from her husband
- Gives unconditionally, without expectation in return
- Simply by seeing Bhagwaan in her husband, can attain realization.
Nothing else is needed
- Is focused on her and her duty alone and becomes the shadow of her
husband.

Pativrata Dharma is not dependent upon husband's conduct
- Pativrata Dharma is not "servanthood" at all. It is a "bhava" 
- Pativrata Dharma is a special short cut given to women, guaranteed
method for liberation/God Realization
- It is VERY VERY easy in Kaliyuga to observe this Dharma. Almost 
all women can observe this dharma. Key is relinquishing "Ego"
- "Both the Pati (in vrata) with wife" is the complete seNse in
PATIVRATA. With Rama-Sita was a Pativrata.
- Per Vyas - Dharma is sadachar (virtuous, righteous, moral conduct
that should be followed), but it is practically impossible to stick
to in todays life.

2.How does she conduct herself?
- She acts according to her husband's desire, obediently and most 
naturally.
- Bhavas towards husband come comparitively effortless

3.How does her conduct impact her home?
- No ego clashes.
- benefits in personal, family, societal, all of mankind. following
Bhagwaan's ordinance, physical well-being, harmony, peace, spreading
fragrant happiness to all.
- Always Peace. Respect! Purity! Power! She is "Grihalaxmi" ! She
is "Annapurna" (Feeder) !! She is "Shakti".
- Obedient children

4.How does she get emancipated from this worldly ocean merely
because she is Pativrata?

- all karmas, gets dispelled though her husband may be bad
- it is a chance for liberation from rebirth that only woman have.
- complete surrender, where wife has no ego, no desire, no wishes of
her own at all.
- She gets Realisation. She gets emancipation. She gets rewarded by
Paramatma.
- principles of surrender leading to "egoless", "desireless"

and "mamataless" (Gita 2:71)

Do you think you are ready to be a pativrita ?
- Just accept firmly -Only God is mine, and I am God's. This whole
world is God's, so serve all as God's per Gita's without expecting
anything.
- Sri Krishna is foremost, and knowing that our relationship with
Him will not end, there is a deeper confidence that no one can take
away.
- It is unwillingness to observe "egolessness" or drop the ego that 
prevents one from following this dharma. 
- Surrender unto Paramatma and do your duty.
- Accept Bhagwaan as everything (all relations)
- Do not give up your devotion to God
- Know yourself! All answers lie within!
- Key is to being satisfied within one's own Self (where Supreme
Lord resides).

LETS ATLEAST FOLLOW THIS IN THIS FAST MOVING WORLD 

I FEEL I SHOULD BE LIKE THIS BECAUSE THIS WILL MAKE ME SATISFIED AND GIVE ME SOME PEACE OF MIND