SIX types of LOVE

Hello friends ,,,,

LOVE is there everywhere ..... we all love .. no one can deny the fact ..

The type of Love which we show makes a difference.... Love is also classified...

Eros is romantic, passionate, love—what Tennov labeled limerence. In this type of relationship, love is life's most important thing. Lee said a search for physical beauty or an ideal type also typifies this type of love.

Ludus is a game-playing or uncommitted love. Lying is part of the game. A person who pursues ludic love may have many conquests but remains uncommitted.

Storge (STORE-gay) is a slow developing, friendship-based loved. People with this type of relationship like to participate in activities together. Often storge results in a long-term relationship in which sex might not be very intense or passionate.

Pragma is a pragmatic, practical, mutually beneficial relationship. It may be somewhat unromantic. A person who leans toward this type of relationship may look for a partner at work or where the person is spending time. Sex is likely to be seen as a technical matter needed for producing children, if they are desired.

Mania is an obsessive or possessive love, jealous and extreme. A person in love this way is likely to do something crazy or silly, such as stalking. The movie Fatal Attraction was about this type.

Agape (a-GOP-aye) is a gentle, caring, giving type of love, brotherly love, not concerned with the self. It is relatively rare. Mother Theresa showed this kind of love for impoverished people.

So now we know what love we show to people around us ......

Difference between Daughter and Daughter in law

Hello frnds ..........

A long time since i came here ... this time an interesting topic with regard to the treatment given to the daughter in laws by the mother in laws ......

Mother of a son before his marriage - " a person who did things for her son changed herself in many ways for him .. loved him unconditionally "

Mother of a son after his marriage - "a person who does things coz she dont want her son to fall for his wife "

I dont understand why there is such a difference in the attitude .. a mother remains the same to her daughter even after the marriage ... but when it comes to daughter in law though they say "she is like a daughter to me" they dont mean it...

It really hurts when a person who is like a mother to u and they show such a huge difference between daughter and daughter in law...

The part played in by the sons of such mothers influences the daughters in law to a gr8 extent....

Some remains quiet though they know that there is some problem. some tend to shout to stop the problem .. some tend to support their mothers nd advice their wife ... very very few ppl support their wife wen such issues come up...

I dont say that all mothers are like this though we say we have developed a lot ... not in this issue of attitude problem between a daughter in law and mother in law...

My sincere appeal to all mothers out there i know u all love ur sons .. but after marriage the daughter in law is sharing the love that u have got from ur son for all these years ... she is not replacing you but just trying to be apart of Ur son ..you need not see her as a daughter but please dont forget to consider her to be a fellow women ...

All mothers in law dont forget that you were also a daughter in law at one part of time .....

ENLIGHTENED LIVING cont.....

Hello friends...

Sorry folks since i was busy with some personals i was not able to write out my mind in here ...

we have seen the present scenario of human psychology.. we usually hear people saying 'why is that my life is full of misery'.... or 'iam the only person who undergoes so much misery in life'.. we tend to blame others for our misery in life,, is this right???

we are solely responsible for all our miseries in life . when we take the responsibility we tend to stop blaming others for our miseries and that would make a drastic change in life.

We all go through our misery with a hope that it will end soon. first we should give up thinking about the end of misery, instead we should start thinking that it has already ended. By doing so , we tend to forget about the misery and enjoy the present.

It sounds very simple right?? but is it simple to follow?

our life has become too mechanical. we keep worrying about present miseries and this has become a habit of ours. We have been conditioned to wait for happiness to come .

We should unlearn what we have learnt and learn new ways of thinking and doing.

We always worry about the regrets and guilt feelings in our life. instead of worryin we can learn from mistakes and give up the feelings of being guilty. i hope this wud surely make us happy.

we all are conditioned with certain thoughts and attitudes. When some new thoughts to which we are not conditioned comes to us we tend to feel uncomfortable.
We all are the prisoners of our own conditioning,because of our conditioning we feel the misery.

SO HOW TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE??

SIMPLE. just be happy. enjoy the present. we should see the good in others. rejoice in other's success . we should not consider ourself as a failure in terms of others success. everyone is unique.

we should keep our mind calm . say "NO" to negative thoughts . this is the most simple way for being happy .

So friends don't feel so much for ur miseries i life. just sit back , enjoy the present. Life has been so good to us. so feel it and be grateful to the beautiful gift of GOD.- "OUR LIFE"...

Today's LOVE ......

"I LOVE YOU " this has become the most commonly used words in today's scenario ...

In ancient times love was very secret . it was kept within the hearts of couples . but today people have guts to propose even in front of parents .

Where are we going in the case of LOVE . LOVE should be unconditional without any expectations attitudes nd ego's ...

In today's scenario love has different meaning altogether . it is full of egos .no one is ready to leave their egos nd save their relationship...
Blaming is another factor which spoils a relationship to the core .. blaming each other for a problem never solves it ..
Another thing that spoils love is expectations .. a gal is never clear abt wat she expects from her husband and keep saying 'you are not up to my expectations ' this again leave the guy confused and spoils the relationship .....

will continue ......

ENLIGHTENED LIVING -1

Hello friends ...

Instead of making psychology in notes form i thought i wud mingle our daily experiences with psychology and find out reason for our actions ...

ENLIGHTENED LIVING this happens wen one is completely aware of what he does and why he does ..

Life is filled with surprises and each surprise is the gift from the unknown .We can't experience a surprise as a gift as our minds are filled with preconceived notion of what we shud receive and what we should not .

Why is that we expect a lot from life???? Life is an unexpected thing .Anything may happen any time . Sometimes it brings us joy ,sometimes sorrow ..

Can student who dint prepare well for the exam, can he expect distinction ??? same way life is if we are not giving our best then we wont get the best out of it .

I have seen people afraid to take risky decisions in life ॥ i pity them । i always feel we shud be bold enough to take risks in our life . When we are aware of the consequences y shud we stop ourself? Life is only once so lets make the best use of it .. at the end of life we shud not feel that we have wasted it ...

I always wonder why is that i feel bored most of the time when i have so much to do .. we all have this kinda feeling sometime .. this happens because we have taken life for granted and we are indifferent to the mysteries of life. so we tend to give least importance to small things that happen in life .

Do we have time to see sun rising so gracefully ? Do we have time to listen to the chirping of birds ?These may sound odd but if we give it a time to think this would do miracles in our life..

will continue enlightened living ...........

IMPORTANCE OF PSYCHOLOGY

Psychology is a subject that deals with human behavior ..This is like an ocean where we come to know the various aspects of our behavior and the reason behind it ..

Have you ever wondered why we behave in different ways to a same situation .? every individual is unique .No one can be the same like the other . So we think differently for different situations .

We human beings are the most beautiful creation of god . various aspects of human life is under the big umbrella called PSYCHOLOGY .
A person's personality,intelligence,emotions,attitude,thoughts,behavior,etc... can be understood through psychology .We never give importance to these aspects since we don't have time to think of it .
We should realize how important psychology is to understand ourselves . When we know our self its easy to understand others ...

So friends lets explore the ocean of psychology to understand our self.. enjoy your stay here ...

LIFE OF A STUDENT .... from LKG to College.....

Hi ppl am back ... After joining the college , i got many experiences with my students ....

life of a student .... let them be in watever field be it arts ,science , engineering , medicine ,others ....

their life remains the same ...


wen i was 2 yrs old my parents dint have the option of sending me to pre kg .... so i had lot of time to spend with my parents ...but in today's generation children are sent to pre kg ...the reason given by the parents is " pre kg pona than avanuku matha kozhandhel oda pazhaga theriyum" this is a lame excuse every parent gives for not spending time with their children .....


after pre kg ..... LKG to 12 another hectic life starts ..... they are stuffed with expectations from the LKG.
"avan avalo mark vangaran en unala mudiyala" wat a question is this ??? if ur son ask u "avan appa oru engineer nee en apadi ila" wat will be ur answer for this ......

then with all struggle he passes 10th then the group selection starts ... he is not allowed to take a group he likes "nambha family la docter ila so nee docter ku padi " .......


then he tries to full fil his parents wish ...

this generation students struggle a lot coz of frequent changes in their studies ....

parents should understand their difficulty and one more thing dont compare your child with other.

each and every individual is different your child is talented in some way so find tht nd nurture it in him.....


ipadi irundha neenga expect panamaleye they will excel ..... motivate them bt dont force them ...



i dunno whthr all these r rite jus felt like writing so wrote .....

this is ther in the mind of my students this is an input from them