tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88344569253473044352024-03-13T11:50:05.890-07:00My scribbles ........Life has been the Best Teacher i ever had .... My random learning from life is scribbled here ....Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-80506334337063890262011-05-21T02:19:00.000-07:002011-05-21T02:29:11.736-07:00SIX types of LOVEHello friends ,,,,<br /><br />LOVE is there everywhere ..... we all love .. no one can deny the fact ..<br /><br />The type of Love which we show makes a difference.... Love is also classified...<br /><br /><p style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;" class="Indent"><b>Eros</b> is romantic, passionate, love—what Tennov labeled limerence. In this type of relationship, love is life's most important thing. Lee said a search for physical beauty or an ideal type also typifies this type of love.</p> <p style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;" class="Indent"><b>Ludus</b> is a game-playing or uncommitted love. Lying is part of the game. A person who pursues ludic love may have many conquests but remains uncommitted.</p> <p style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;" class="Indent"><b>Storge</b> (STORE-gay) is a slow developing, friendship-based loved. People with this type of relationship like to participate in activities together. Often storge results in a long-term relationship in which sex might not be very intense or passionate.</p> <p style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;" class="Indent"><b>Pragma </b> is a pragmatic, practical, mutually beneficial relationship. It may be somewhat unromantic. A person who leans toward this type of relationship may look for a partner at work or where the person is spending time. Sex is likely to be seen as a technical matter needed for producing children, if they are desired.</p> <p style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;" class="Indent"><b>Mania</b> is an obsessive or possessive love, jealous and extreme. A person in love this way is likely to do something crazy or silly, such as stalking. The movie Fatal Attraction was about this type.</p> <p style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;" class="Indent"><b>Agape</b> (a-GOP-aye) is a gentle, caring, giving type of love, brotherly love, not concerned with the self. It is relatively rare. Mother Theresa showed this kind of love for impoverished people.</p>So now we know what love we show to people around us ......Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-7239020455074816162011-04-05T21:34:00.000-07:002011-04-05T22:12:10.482-07:00Difference between Daughter and Daughter in lawHello frnds ..........<br /><br />A long time since i came here ... this time an interesting topic with regard to the treatment given to the daughter in laws by the mother in laws ......<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">Mother of a son before his marriage - " a person who did things for her son changed herself in many ways for </span>him .. loved him unconditionally "<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">Mother of a son after his marriage - "</span>a person who does things coz she dont want her son to fall for his wife "<br /><br />I dont understand why there is such a difference in the attitude .. a mother remains the same to her daughter even after the marriage ... but when it comes to daughter in law though they say "she is like a daughter to me" they dont mean it...<br /><br />It really hurts when a person who is like a mother to u and they show such a huge difference between daughter and daughter in law...<br /><br />The part played in by the sons of such mothers influences the daughters in law to a gr8 extent....<br /><br />Some remains quiet though they know that there is some problem. some tend to shout to stop the problem .. some tend to support their mothers nd advice their wife ... very very few ppl support their wife wen such issues come up...<br /><br />I dont say that all mothers are like this though we say we have developed a lot ... not in this issue of attitude problem between a daughter in law and mother in law...<br /><br />My sincere appeal to all mothers out there i know u all love ur sons .. but after marriage the daughter in law is sharing the love that u have got from ur son for all these years ... she is not replacing you but just trying to be apart of Ur son ..you need not see her as a daughter but please dont forget to consider her to be a fellow women ...<br /><br />All mothers in law dont forget that you were also a daughter in law at one part of time .....Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-77684418862337449612010-11-27T03:34:00.000-08:002010-11-27T04:02:50.514-08:00ENLIGHTENED LIVING cont.....<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjC_VFFbll5fCMyMlA4gAeiMbORiOKQ3uiaWUAvuowIiQ4BYquaPCFmuGMf-QJJMnaCtd-Asyn9mEH6qJnq84cytarycJ0Zsa-fEnq0GObNgayZCPcVw4mlDgEBqOBQ4vCumHNKSqM-Uc4/s1600/image026.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjC_VFFbll5fCMyMlA4gAeiMbORiOKQ3uiaWUAvuowIiQ4BYquaPCFmuGMf-QJJMnaCtd-Asyn9mEH6qJnq84cytarycJ0Zsa-fEnq0GObNgayZCPcVw4mlDgEBqOBQ4vCumHNKSqM-Uc4/s320/image026.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5544198634560616962" border="0" /></a><br />Hello friends...<br /><br />Sorry folks since i was busy with some personals i was not able to write out my mind in here ...<br /><br />we have seen the present scenario of human psychology.. we usually hear people saying 'why is that my life is full of misery'.... or 'iam the only person who undergoes so much misery in life'.. we tend to blame others for our misery in life,, is this right???<br /><br />we are solely responsible for all our miseries in life . when we take the responsibility we tend to stop blaming others for our miseries and that would make a drastic change in life.<br /><br />We all go through our misery with a hope that it will end soon. first we should give up thinking about the end of misery, instead we should start thinking that it has already ended. By doing so , we tend to forget about the misery and enjoy the present.<br /><br />It sounds very simple right?? but is it simple to follow?<br /><br />our life has become too mechanical. we keep worrying about present miseries and this has become a habit of ours. We have been conditioned to wait for happiness to come .<br /><br />We should unlearn what we have learnt and learn new ways of thinking and doing.<br /><br />We always worry about the regrets and guilt feelings in our life. instead of worryin we can learn from mistakes and give up the feelings of being guilty. i hope this wud surely make us happy.<br /><br />we all are conditioned with certain thoughts and attitudes. When some new thoughts to which we are not conditioned comes to us we tend to feel uncomfortable.<br />We all are the prisoners of our own conditioning,because of our conditioning we feel the misery.<br /><br />SO HOW TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE??<br /><br />SIMPLE. just be happy. enjoy the present. we should see the good in others. rejoice in other's success . we should not consider ourself as a failure in terms of others success. everyone is unique.<br /><br />we should keep our mind calm . say "NO" to negative thoughts . this is the most simple way for being happy .<br /><br />So friends don't feel so much for ur miseries i life. just sit back , enjoy the present. Life has been so good to us. so feel it and be grateful to the beautiful gift of GOD.- "OUR LIFE"...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-55312592290978306082010-11-14T08:26:00.000-08:002010-11-14T08:58:40.957-08:00Today's LOVE ......"I LOVE YOU " this has become the most commonly used words in today's scenario ...<br /><br />In ancient times love was very secret . it was kept within the hearts of couples . but today people have guts to propose even in front of parents .<br /><br />Where are we going in the case of LOVE . LOVE should be unconditional without any expectations attitudes nd ego's ...<br /><br />In today's scenario love has different meaning altogether . it is full of egos .no one is ready to leave their egos nd save their relationship...<br />Blaming is another factor which spoils a relationship to the core .. blaming each other for a problem never solves it ..<br />Another thing that spoils love is expectations .. a gal is never clear abt wat she expects from her husband and keep saying 'you are not up to my expectations ' this again leave the guy confused and spoils the relationship .....<br /><br />will continue ......Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-10706947348953155252010-11-14T01:04:00.000-08:002010-11-14T01:36:36.362-08:00ENLIGHTENED LIVING -1Hello friends ...<br /><br />Instead of making psychology in notes form i thought i wud mingle our daily experiences with psychology and find out reason for our actions ...<br /><br />ENLIGHTENED LIVING this happens wen one is completely aware of what he does and why he does ..<br /><br />Life is filled with surprises and each surprise is the gift from the unknown .We can't experience a surprise as a gift as our minds are filled with preconceived notion of what we shud receive and what we should not .<br /><br />Why is that we expect a lot from life???? Life is an unexpected thing .Anything may happen any time . Sometimes it brings us joy ,sometimes sorrow ..<br /><br />Can student who dint prepare well for the exam, can he expect distinction ??? same way life is if we are not giving our best then we wont get the best out of it .<br /><br />I have seen people afraid to take risky decisions in life ॥ i pity them । i always feel we shud be bold enough to take risks in our life . When we are aware of the consequences y shud we stop ourself? Life is only once so lets make the best use of it .. at the end of life we shud not feel that we have wasted it ...<br /><br />I always wonder why is that i feel bored most of the time when i have so much to do .. we all have this kinda feeling sometime .. this happens because we have taken life for granted and we are indifferent to the mysteries of life. so we tend to give least importance to small things that happen in life .<br /><br />Do we have time to see sun rising so gracefully ? Do we have time to listen to the chirping of birds ?These may sound odd but if we give it a time to think this would do miracles in our life..<br /><br />will continue enlightened living ...........Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-71205269348572356452010-11-12T19:42:00.000-08:002010-11-12T19:53:19.929-08:00IMPORTANCE OF PSYCHOLOGY<span style="font-family:arial;">Psychology is a subject that deals with human behavior ..</span>This is like an ocean where we come to know the various aspects of our behavior and the reason behind it ..<br /><br />Have you ever wondered why we behave in different ways to a same situation .? every individual is unique .No one can be the same like the other . So we think differently for different situations .<br /><br />We human beings are the most beautiful creation of god . various aspects of human life is under the big umbrella called PSYCHOLOGY .<br />A person's personality,intelligence,emotions,attitude,thoughts,behavior,etc... can be understood through psychology .We never give importance to these aspects since we don't have time to think of it .<br />We should realize how important psychology is to understand ourselves . When we know our self its easy to understand others ...<br /><br />So friends lets explore the ocean of psychology to understand our self.. enjoy your stay here ...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-2300457648439660882010-08-07T22:01:00.000-07:002010-08-07T23:01:34.131-07:00LIFE OF A STUDENT .... from LKG to College.....<span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-family: courier new;">Hi ppl am back </span></span>... After joining the college , i got many experiences with my students ....<br /><br />life of a student .... let them be in watever field be it arts ,science , engineering , medicine ,others ....<br /><br />their life remains the same ...<br /><br /><br />wen i was 2 yrs old my parents dint have the option of sending me to pre kg .... so i had lot of time to spend with my parents ...but in today's generation children are sent to pre kg ...the reason given by the parents is " pre kg pona than avanuku matha kozhandhel oda pazhaga theriyum" this is a lame excuse every parent gives for not spending time with their children .....<br /><br /><br />after pre kg ..... LKG to 12 another hectic life starts ..... they are stuffed with expectations from the LKG.<br />"avan avalo mark vangaran en unala mudiyala" wat a question is this ??? if ur son ask u "avan appa oru engineer nee en apadi ila" wat will be ur answer for this ......<br /><br />then with all struggle he passes 10th then the group selection starts ... he is not allowed to take a group he likes "nambha family la docter ila so nee docter ku padi " .......<br /><br /><br />then he tries to full fil his parents wish ...<br /><br />this generation students struggle a lot coz of frequent changes in their studies ....<br /><br />parents should understand their difficulty and one more thing dont compare your child with other.<br /><br />each and every individual is different your child is talented in some way so find tht nd nurture it in him.....<br /><br /><br />ipadi irundha neenga expect panamaleye they will excel ..... motivate them bt dont force them ...<br /><br /><br /><br />i dunno whthr all these r rite jus felt like writing so wrote .....<br /><br />this is ther in the mind of my students this is an input from themAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-38262924769191247682009-10-21T09:39:00.000-07:002009-10-21T09:44:05.457-07:00QUALITIES OF PATIVRATA<span style="color:#3366ff;"><strong>What are the standards of one being a Pativrata wife?<br /></strong></span>A Pativrata wife is one who -<br />- Accepts "husband" as he is, and serves him through words, deeds<br />And a thought i.e. follows Patni Dharma (wife's duties) rigorously.<br />- Has implicit faith in husband. A rare quality! E.g. Tulsi<br />- Does not seek any reciprocation from her husband<br />- Gives unconditionally, without expectation in return<br />- Simply by seeing Bhagwaan in her husband, can attain realization.<br />Nothing else is needed<br />- Is focused on her and her duty alone and becomes the shadow of her<br />husband.<br /><br />Pativrata Dharma is not dependent upon husband's conduct<br />- Pativrata Dharma is not "servanthood" at all. It is a "bhava" <br />- Pativrata Dharma is a special short cut given to women, guaranteed<br />method for liberation/God Realization<br />- It is VERY VERY easy in Kaliyuga to observe this Dharma. Almost <br />all women can observe this dharma. Key is relinquishing "Ego"<br />- "Both the Pati (in vrata) with wife" is the complete seNse in<br />PATIVRATA. With Rama-Sita was a Pativrata.<br />- Per Vyas - Dharma is sadachar (virtuous, righteous, moral conduct<br />that should be followed), but it is practically impossible to stick<br />to in todays life.<br /><br /><span style="color:#3366ff;"><strong>2.How does she conduct herself?</strong></span><br />- She acts according to her husband's desire, obediently and most <br />naturally.<br />- Bhavas towards husband come comparitively effortless<br /><br /><span style="color:#3366ff;"><strong>3.How does her conduct impact her home?</strong></span><br />- No ego clashes.<br />- benefits in personal, family, societal, all of mankind. following<br />Bhagwaan's ordinance, physical well-being, harmony, peace, spreading<br />fragrant happiness to all.<br />- Always Peace. Respect! Purity! Power! She is "Grihalaxmi" ! She<br />is "Annapurna" (Feeder) !! She is "Shakti".<br />- Obedient children<br /><br /><span style="color:#3366ff;"><strong>4.How does she get emancipated from this worldly ocean merely<br />because she is Pativrata?</strong></span><br />- all karmas, gets dispelled though her husband may be bad<br />- it is a chance for liberation from rebirth that only woman have.<br />- complete surrender, where wife has no ego, no desire, no wishes of<br />her own at all.<br />- She gets Realisation. She gets emancipation. She gets rewarded by<br />Paramatma.<br />- principles of surrender leading to "egoless", "desireless"<br /><p>and "mamataless" (Gita 2:71)</p><p align="justify"><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Do you think you are ready to be a pativrita ?</span></strong><br />- Just accept firmly -Only God is mine, and I am God's. This whole<br />world is God's, so serve all as God's per Gita's without expecting<br />anything.<br />- Sri Krishna is foremost, and knowing that our relationship with<br />Him will not end, there is a deeper confidence that no one can take<br />away.<br />- It is unwillingness to observe "egolessness" or drop the ego that <br />prevents one from following this dharma. <br />- Surrender unto Paramatma and do your duty.<br />- Accept Bhagwaan as everything (all relations)<br />- Do not give up your devotion to God<br />- Know yourself! All answers lie within!<br />- Key is to being satisfied within one's own Self (where Supreme<br />Lord resides).<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">LETS ATLEAST FOLLOW THIS IN THIS FAST MOVING WORLD </span></strong><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;"><br /></span></strong></p><p align="justify"><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">I FEEL I SHOULD BE LIKE THIS BECAUSE THIS WILL MAKE ME SATISFIED AND GIVE ME SOME PEACE OF MIND </span></strong></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-60309635843026689702009-07-16T08:41:00.000-07:002009-07-16T08:44:25.274-07:00three stages of love<div align="justify"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Falling in love involves three stages: the initial feelings of lust or romantic love, physical attraction, and finally a deeper emotional attachment. Reaching the final stage of love isn't just about luck or unconditional acceptance. You can reach the final stage of love with these seven tips for a healthy love life. To be enjoyed, the three stages of love or stages of relationships need to be understood.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">What Are the Three Stages of Love?</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Before you embark on the stages of love, you might want to learn learn Why We Fall in Love.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">The three stages of love are the same for everyone: lust or romantic love, physical attraction, and emotional attachment. The stages of love or stages of relationships aren't necessarily separated by markers like anniversaries or events (such as getting married). Rather, the three stages of love blend together in one long stroke of love.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Not everyone reaches or stays in the final stage of love, which is when separation or divorce becomes an option.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">The Three Stages of Love</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Romantic love or lust is the first stage of love. It's driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this stage of relationship, endorphins soak your brain and you're immersed in intense pleasurable sensations. Your lover is perfect, ideal, made for you. In this stage of love you feel exhilarated and even "high" (similar to the feeling you get after you eat really good chocolate or have a great workout). You feel infactuated in this stage of relationship.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span></div><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span></p><p align="justify"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Physical attraction and power struggles make up the second stage of love (the lovesick phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You're also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you're becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether or not to buy organic food or listen to country music. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infactuation fade.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance is the third stage of love. It involves commitment, partnership, and even children (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of relationship, you're aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you've decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you're authentic and honest, it'll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">The Three Stages of Love: Staying in Love</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Your partnership isn't just a vehicle that brings happiness and contentment to your life (or bitterness and pain). It's a living, dynamic creature that changes, grows, and needs attention -- and you must nurture it. In all three stages of love, your love reveals who you really are, in all your glory and weakness.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">All stages of love can help you accept your strengths and weaknesses. All stages of relationships also reveal your partner's strengths and weaknesses.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">7 Tips for All 3 Stages of Love:</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Focus on the things you can control: your attitude, your behavior, your words, and your energy. If you want something to change in any stage of a loving relationship, make it your own traits or actions – not your partner's.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Learn healthy ways to express your disappointment, anger, or frustration. Be honest and authentic, and kind and loving in all stages of relationships.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Remember the first stage of love! Recall your feelings of lust, attraction, and desire for your partner. Think about the traits that you were attracted to, and let those old feelings come to life again.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Appreciate your partner's good qualities; be grateful for the life you share. Gratitude can enhance all stages of relationships.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Focus on emotional intimacy in all three stages of love. Be vulnerable to have a healthy love life.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Own your feelings. Your partner can't "make" you feel stupid or worthless. If you feel unfulfilled or sad about your life, look at your own dreams and goals. Are you pursuing the life you were meant to live? Are you following your heart? Develop your personality, mind, and spirit. Figure out what will make you happy in this stage of love, and start creating the life you were meant to live.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Consider counseling in any stage of love. If you've lost that loving feeling, it could be an individual thing that you need to deal with or a couples' issue that you should tackle together. An objective point of view, from a therapist, pastor, or friend you trust, is incredibly helpful in all stages of relationships.</span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><br /></span></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8834456925347304435.post-69187729673541771172009-07-16T08:30:00.000-07:002009-07-16T08:35:24.123-07:00psychology ............. lets know ourself<p><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">this post is about my favourite topic PSYCHOLOGY its my all time favourite </span></p><p><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Psychology is a reasonable and scientifically organized man-made schema to understand human behavior, based on observation over time.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:lucida grande;"><span style="color:#3366ff;">What comes to mind when you picture a psychologist? </span><br /><br />If you're like most people coming to this fascinating field for the first time, the picture is apt to be a very familiar one. <br /><br />A quiet room. A leather couch. A neatly bearded, scholarly looking gentleman seated off to the side, only rarely speaking, quietly taking notes and occasionally nodding as the couch's supine occupant tells his or her story. <br /><br />In some ways, such a picture would indeed be accurate, a confirmation not only of the importance of Sigmund Freud in the history of psychology but also of the degree Freud dominates the popular perception of this discipline. <br /><br /><span style="color:#3366ff;">But the picture would be inaccurate, as well. </span><br /><br />Freud was a physician, and the majority of psychologists are not. Both the psychoanalytic theory he pioneered and the therapeutic approach it was based on–psychoanalysis–have seen their dominance wane in recent years. And psychologists today, as indebted as they may be to Freud's landmark explorations of our psychological landscape, are involved in far more than helping people cope with inner demons. <br /><br />The expansive and varied roles of contemporary psychologists create another common image—of a crowd of white-coated researchers gathered around a maze, carefully recording a white rat's performance. It's another inadequate picture because experimental psychologists today usually work with people, not animals. <br /><br />Moreover, the areas of interest those psychologists are pursuing now encompass every part of the process we use to develop and function as people: <br />How we perceive, remember, and learn <br />How we select our friends and partners and retain their affection and love<br />The things that motivate us as we make our choices in life <br />Even how we relate to the vehicles, machinery, computer systems, or workspaces we encounter as we make our livings. <br /><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">A Basic Introduction to a Complex Subject</span> <br /><br />The Psychology of Human Behavior is an outstanding introduction to the field of psychology, beginning with its historical context and looking ahead to some of the directions it is likely to take in the future. Though the course is not intended to be an in-depth exploration of this constantly evolving discipline, its 36 lectures work smoothly as an easy-to-follow primer and offer the ideal starting point for satisfying curiosity about how the mind works, the perspectives from which that question can be approached, and directions for further learning. <br /><br />Curiosity about the human mind is something Professor David W. Martin believes is present in just about everyone–even if we don't always realize it. <br /><br />"If you go to a party and see what people are talking about, they are talking about other people and other people's behavior." <br /><br />"'Why did she leave him?' 'Why don't they bring up their kids in a better way?'" <br /><br />"They are talking about human behavior, [something] we're all interested in–and what we are going to be talking about in this course." <br /><br />In keeping with the introductory nature of the lectures, Professor Martin maintains the discussion at a straightforward level, using technical terms when necessary and always defining them clearly. He presents this broad array of topics in a way that makes it apparent why his teaching skills have been so consistently honored. <br /><br />He uses his own specialty–engineering psychology–as an example of the many new research areas that now fit comfortably beneath psychology's umbrella. As an engineering psychologist, Professor Martin studies how people function as components in a larger system of human-and-machine—for instance, why they see (or ignore) data presented on a computer screen... how they process information to make decisions in a specific environment formed by person and device... or even the best way to indicate which burners on a stove are controlled by which knobs. <br /><br />This kind of career path has only lately become possible. As his lectures show, Professor Martin, like psychologists working in the field's many subspecialties, are the beneficiaries of decades of increased understanding of how the psyche and brain function, how information is processed, and how to go about gaining that understanding through sophisticated, state-of-the-art research methods. <br /><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">A Time When "Introspection" Was Scientific Procedure </span><br /><br />Odd as it seems today, the major method of data collection during experimental psychology's early days, around the turn of the 20th century, was through what was called introspection: Researchers were trained in concentrating on and identifying the methods their own minds used to process a stimulus presented to them, so they could then report the results! <br /><br />Today neurologists and neuroscientists can see the electrical and chemical effects within the body's most complex organ as mental, physical, and emotional processes are stimulated. <br /><br />Ultimately psychology is about human behavior: what we do and why we do it. And as Professor Martin moves across the landscape of psychology today, he introduces topics as varied as major types of mental disorders; the different kinds of physical, behavioral, and "talking" therapies available to treat them; and the ways simple learning is accomplished. He includes example after example of how complex that simple idea—what we do and why we do it—can be. <br />In looking at the field of social psychology, and the ways people can be persuaded, he describes experiments in which people waiting in a long line to make copies are confronted by a person asking to be allowed to jump in at the front. Most people (94 percent) agreed if the reason given was "being in a rush"; 60 percent agreed if no reason at all was given. But even when the reason given was "because I have to make some copies" (obviously!), 93 percent still said yes! As Professor Martin explains, the key element is the use of the word "because," which functions as a heuristic, a psychological shortcut for people too busy to take in the data but who have learned through experience that the word "because" is usually a signal that a good reason is coming. <br />In exploring memory, we learn about the work of psychologist Elizabeth Loftus, who has demonstrated how easily memories can be implanted, sometimes just by asking whether someone remembers having experienced a nonexistent event. Subjects will initially deny—accurately—having had the experience, but about a third of them, when tested later, will remember the experience with as much certainty as if it had taken place! <br />Of the relatively new field of evolutionary psychology, we learn that in police reports, men explaining why—"for no reason at all"—they seek to kill one another in meaningless fights over insults is in fact for one of the oldest reasons on the planet. Even if the fight takes places in a bar, with no one around but male strangers for whom an insult to one's reputation would hardly matter, the violence likely stems from the evolutionary need for male status in a very small community of 60 to 100 people, at most, with a limited supply of females. <br /><br />Under such circumstances, notes Professor Martin, an insult that reduces one's status–thus one's ability to attract a mate–would have been very consequential. <br /><br />"Our genes are set up to have behavioral predispositions to considering these fighting words, and engaging in aggression, when somebody denigrates our status. That's apparently what's happening in these situations." <br /><br />Similarly, evolution appears to have had a profound impact on the development of altruism, the ways we choose our sexual partners, why we make war, and even why we overeat. Though most of our understanding of human psychology has been gained in little more than a century, the puzzle psychologists are working to assemble and understand has been in process for a long, long time. <br /><br />Psychology of Human Behavior can only begin to describe that puzzle, of course, but it is a fascinating description–both a solid summary and an ideal starting point for those eager to find the keys to the puzzle's solution.<br /><br /></span></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657217242338252932noreply@blogger.com0